How to Protect Your Energy During the Holidays
Stress Relief for Women Over 40
The Pressure to Be โOnโ All Season
Before the first invitation even lands, you can already feel it โ that tightening in your chest when you see the December calendar filling up. The parties, the obligations, the mental checklist that never ends.
You tell yourself itโs just a busy season, but underneath the hustle is exhaustionโฆ and guilt for wanting things to slow down. Hereโs the reminder you may need this year: saying no doesnโt make you unkind โ it keeps you sane.
Step 1: Recognize When Your Body Says โEnoughโ
Our bodies send early signals long before burnout hits: a tight chest, shallow breath, rising tension in the shoulders. Thatโs your nervous system saying, โI need space.โ
Instead of ignoring it, practice checking in daily:
โWhat does peace feel like in my body right now?โ
You canโt fix what you donโt feel โ so start with awareness.
Step 2: Set Boundaries Before You Need Them
Itโs easier to say no before youโve said yes to everything.
Try this: limit your social commitments to one per weekend, or schedule one full โquiet weekendโ for yourself now โ before invitations pile up.
If guilt sneaks in, remind yourself:
โI show up best for others when my own tank is full.โ
Thatโs not selfish โ itโs strategy.

Step 3: Create Daily โEnergy Anchorsโ
Small habits that reset your nervous system can change your whole week.
You donโt need a full spa day โ just consistent micro-moments of calm.
Try one of these each day:
- Desk yoga or stretching between tasks
- Five-minute meditation before checking emails
- A short walk outside to reset your breath and mindset
Protecting your peace isnโt indulgent โ itโs the foundation for joy.
Step 4: Redefine Holiday โSuccessโ
You donโt need to attend every event or say yes to every ask. What matters is how you feel when the season ends. Ask yourself: โHow do I want to feel on December 26th?โ
Thatโs your compass for what truly matters.
๐ Coachโs Note
When I think back to the holidays that felt the best, it wasnโt the ones filled with activities โ it was the quiet moments with my kids.
The laughter in the kitchen. The slow mornings. Those are the memories that feel like home.
You deserve more of those this year.
Final Thoughts
As you head into this season, remember: protecting your peace is an act of generosity.
Because when youโre calm, grounded, and rested โ everyone around you benefits too.
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